Is it Normal to Enjoy BDSM?

Absolutely! Sure, the Vanilla community, especially the press and church, have demonized the lifestyle and made us out to be freaks because we’re into being chained up, whipped, or gagged, but those in the vanilla community can also get caught in the routine of having sex the same way every time again until they are so bored of their sex life due to a lack of fun and imagination that they completely stop having sex.

We are not saying that vanilla sex can’t be totally enjoyable and intimate, it absolutly is. But if you’re starting to feel jaded instead of fulfilled after sex maybe you need to be more adventerous.

This is normal in most long term relationship. It is difficult to come up with new ideas in the bedroom, after all there are only so many different ways that you can fit 2 bodies together.

This is the stage at which people should start to experiment.

Some will turn to Swinging and invite others to join them in the bedroom to give their sex life a shot in the arm. Thats great for those who can keep their jealousy under control. If this is what you are looking for pop over to our sister site at Swingers in Washington

Others will start to experiment with mild BDSM. A pair of fluffy handcuffs, a few smacks of the bottom while playing, maybe using a necktie to tie your partners hands to the headboard.

All of this is OK and normal. It is also OK and normal if you want to go further and invite a Master, or a Mistress or a Submissive into the mix to experiment further.

Researchers have found that those that prefer the ball gags, whips, and chains tend to be: “less neurotic, anxious or paranoid, and more extroverted, conscientious and open to new experiences than that of the general public.” So, next time someone tells you you’re weird, then tell them they’re just being paranoid.

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